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"You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur."

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Margaret Atwood, The Robber Bride

This one always hits me hard. How many times a day do I check myself automatically - do I look okay, do I smell okay, do I sound smart enough, do I sound too smart, am I being too bold. Even when no one is watching.

If you’re reading this, here’s your reminder that it doesn’t matter what men think of you, not even the men who have planted their own unreasonable standards inside your head. You can stop checking yourself.

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When I was a teenager, I was very critical of feminism too. I was a white girl, about to grow up into a world of white privilege, and I didn’t see the point. Then, the workplace discrimination started happening, then the sexual harassment, then the assaults, then the catcalls, then the condescension from men who weren’t as smart or accomplished as me, the sports coach who was too friendly, the male mentor with other intentions, the drunk male friend who won’t leave the room after the party so you can sleep, the car horns blaring, the groping: it all started happening at about the age of fifteen. I started realising that there was a large portion of the population to whom I was as good as chattel: I was an object to be acted upon.

I also started realising that I’ve been a female misogynist my whole life, and had a lot of unlearning to do too. Change starts with eliminating the noxious parts of yourself you have internalised during socialisation in a misogynistic culture. Feminism isn’t just about stopping the abuse of women by men, it’s about stopping the abuse we do to ourselves and others by genuinely beginning to believe we deserve to be treated as less than human.

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LET ME JUST-

Feminism isn’t just about stopping the abuse of women by men, it’s about stopping the abuse we do to ourselves and others by genuinely beginning to believe we deserve to be treated as less than human.

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  • Question: When I was fourteen, I attempted a DIY coathanger abortion. My family was as staunch pro life, Baptist conservative as you can get & I was terrified they would force me to have the child. I was lucky & suffered no health consequences even though what I was doing was very dangerous. As an adult, I think back to that & wonder, why would you force a fourteen year old to have a baby? I had a child's body still, it would have been traumatizing. Pro lifers are so toxic. Anyway, just felt like sharing. - Anonyme
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    thebaddestfemaleradfem:

    misandry-mermaid:

    oh-snap-pro-choice:

    I’m so sorry for what you had to go through, I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. Thank you so much for sharing
    -Ash

    This is the future that pro-life America wants for our children, except with worse outcomes than anon, who was actually quite lucky to see no negative health consequences. I wish you much luck, anon.


    This is nerve wracking, but I’m going to go ahead and do it because I feel like I need to. I am this anon. I’m pretty new to tumblr, so I have no idea what the etiquette is for claiming to be an anon, but that is absolutely 100% legitimately me that wrote that anon ask.

    The reason I did it anonymously is because I have never told anyone about it. Never, not even my spouse, best friend or therapist. It was difficult for me to even put it into words, surrealistic. Writing it as an anon was easier emotionally, like it could have been anyone else but me that wrote it. But it’s not, that was me, it happened to me, and it was real. And I want to claim ownership of that because while it’s painful, I want to end the stigmatization of abortion as something to be ashamed of.

    For the sake of context, let me say that one could argue the validity of whether or not I was actually pregnant. I was fourteen and sexually active, but always had very regular periods. Then I was about two weeks late after beginning to have regularly unprotected sex for the first time. I had no way of obtaining a pregnancy test, being 14 I had no money, not even five bucks. Let alone no way to get into a drugstore alone and unsupervised. And I knew for a fact, if I asked my parents or any adult in my world for a pregnancy test or told them what was going on, they would watch me like hawks to make sure I had this child. Abortion is murder they said, even unwanted children deserve to be born.

    But the idea of carrying that child scared me to death. The idea of my body warping and swelling to house a child was utterly terrifying, so I waited and told myself I was overreacting. But the days went on and instead of the  menstrual cramps I prayed for, my breasts began to hurt and swell and the smell of food made me puke.

    I wanted to try the herbal abortion remedies I saw online but again, I had no way of obtaining them. I was desperate, and I remembered how the people at church would talk about “barbaric abortions using wire coathangers”. I didn’t even think twice, I found some instructions online, stole a hanger out of my dad’s closet it and did it as best as I could.

    This is the reality of what Pro life America wants, as misandry-mermaid said. And you know what? They’re right, it is barbaric. And sad, and desperate, and dangerous. They are entirely responsible for forcing women and girls into reproductive oppression. I used to be embarrassed and ashamed that I had done this. But I’m not anymore.

    I’m fucking angry, and I’m speaking up.

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staysvckafree:

The male ego is NOT my priority.

The male ego is NOT my priority.

The male ego is NOT my priority.

The male ego is NOT my priority.

The male ego is NOT my priority.

The male ego is NOT my priority.

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lacigreen:

this is rape culture, and it has got to stop.  stay strong jada.

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encore une fois, pas vraiment du cinéma, mais je pense que ça a sa place ici.

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  • Question: u take a lot of selfies. do u think ur pretty or smoething? ur not - Anonyme
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    7mins-in-heaven-w-dean:

    hi there, anon. i didn’t realize i took a lot of selfies. thanks for the info. so, your question was whether i think i’m pretty. you already answered that no, i am not. 

    and i have to agree, anon. i don’t think i’m pretty bc i’m not.

    i’m fat.

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    i always have a double chin.

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    i constantly look like i haven’t slept in a week bc of my dark circles

    and, i always look sunburnt. idfk why

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    i have this white line across my nose that makeup can’t cover up 

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    i have tons of wrinkles on my forehead. like what the hell? i’m 25

    also, it’s the size of fucking texas

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    i still don’t know how to smile in pictures bc i hate my fucking teeth

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    my feet are flat. my hips are huge. my boobs are weird. i am covered in stretch marks. my voice is grating. my ears stick out two miles from my head. i am always fucking sweating and i’ve been asked if i was pregnant more times than i can count. 

    so, you’re right. i’m not pretty. i can’t stand the way i look.

    which is why it’s so fucking important that i post “a lot” of selfies. bc, anon, you’d better fucking believe that if i look in the mirror that day and don’t cringe, i’m gonna take a fucking picture to save that tiny little second. and GOD FORBID i show the world that i posses a little self love every once in a fucking while. 

    TO ANYONE READING THIS: DON’T EVER LET SOMEONE MAKE YOU FEEL ASHAMED FOR LIKING THE WAY YOU LOOK—EVEN IF IT’S JUST FOR A SECOND. IF YOU LOOK NICE, YOU TAKE THAT FUCKING SELFIE AND YOU SHOW IT TO THE GOD DAMN WORLD BC THEY DESERVE TO SEE THE GOD/GODDESS YOU ARE!

    that beard finally coming in? go ahead, bro. take a selfie.

    you finally got that piercing you’ve been wanting? not really my style, but you’re fucking rocking it. take a selfie.

    your boobs look awesome in that shirt? take a selfie.

    you finally lose or gain that weight you’ve been working on? take a selfie.

    your eyeliner look awesome? your new sunglasses make you look like  a celebrity avoiding the paparazzi? you killing that tux? you feel a tiny, rare level of self love? you always on a high level of self love? you just like your face? 

    TAKE A MOTHAFUCKING SELFIE!

    thanks for the question, anon. this one’s for you.

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"Even if I somehow manage to avoid ever seeing porn, it is expected that I dress like a porn star, wax like a porn star, perform in bed like a porn star, and fully embrace all of my partner’s porn-fueled fantasies. I am told that if I don’t perform to his demands I will be cheated on, dumped, abused, and it will all be my fault. I am told that if I refuse to date men who who use porn I will be alone or at best am a controlling bitch and will probably be lied to anyways."

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